Are Your Child Custody Demands Hurting Your Child?

The most prophetic things any judge ever said to me about custody was “do you hate the other person more than you love your child? If so, you will do anything that hurts him/her.”  Consider: are your negative feelings towards the other parent greater than your love for your child? Many people come into my […]

Expanding Our Services with Divorce Mediation

Mediation. Many of you have heard of it. Some of you may have experienced it. In this article, I will discuss what mediation is, what it is not, and the positives and negatives of mediation in the context of a matrimonial or family law matter. What is mediation? Mediation is an alternative method to resolving […]

New Year, New Rules

As we say goodbye to 2015, we in the matrimonial bar say hello to new laws about maintenance.  Before we explore what the new law is all about, let’s review what the law was prior to the new statute. First, some basics about maintenance:  “maintenance” is also known as spousal support (fka alimony).  In New […]

No Mulligans off the Golf Course

People often ask if an attorney is necessary in a divorce or separation.  I often wonder if these same people would ask if a doctor is necessary in the operating room when the patient is about to undergo open heart surgery. There are many services out there that advertise assistance with DIY divorce agreements for […]


With the onslaught of alternatives to litigation, clients often come in with agreements that they have reached through alternative processes, such as mediation. Unfortunately, in New York State mediation is an unlicensed vocation, and anyone can hang up her shingle and call herself a mediator. There are mediators that have training from intense seminars and […]

Uncovering Divorce Financial Secrets

We have received a lot of positive feedback about our columns in Our Towne. Many readers have told us that the issues discussed and the advice given has been eye-opening. The inspiration for the articles comes from our experiences representing people from all socio-economic backgrounds and education levels. However, the inspiration for this article came […]

Same As He Ever Was

Mary and John met shortly after John divorced his first wife (Cathy). While they were dating, John shared with Mary details about his divorce from Cathy. John was bitter about the breakup of his marriage and in his mind Cathy was the cause for the divorce. After all, Cathy was the one that wanted the […]